How do you find friends without kids ?

You need a 3rd space. Join a sport/hobby/club.

The real problem is meeting people while being selective. Hosting events and posting online is an option but you literally can't be selective and you'll have to be okay with nobody showing up sometimes. Attending other peoples events might suit you though!

You could make friends through a multiplayer games dischord.

Going to the same place regularly is a good one. Cafes, Book stores, etc can be 3rd spaces, especially if they host community events. Bars as well but that isn't gonna contribute to a healthy lifestyle.

Younger crowd works for a bit in your early 30s but every year past 35 it feels less and less natural. It's not just generational, like they're in a completely different phase of life. At a certain point you're just not growing up tbbh.

RE people with kids, you gotta just accept that they'll participate when they can.

I had my prior life completely destroyed, and spent about 5 years getting my health together, and last August began integrating myself back into society. Starting with zero social network, in just a few months of dance classes and social dancing, I have more friends and things to do than I've ever had in my life. I do swing/Lindy Hop, which is popular in my area, and also some ballroom dancing, but a lot of people do Salsa/Bachata. I cannot overstate how awesome this has been for meeting people. As a single man, it's especially powerful, as you have an easy introduction ("would you like to dance?", you're immediately in their intimate space, and if you're any good at all you're delivering a fun, custom choreographed experience that lights their face and makes them smile from ear to ear. At 60 years old, my social life has never been better, and I'm having fun with attractive women of all age ranges.

Just to repeat whatever other people are saying here: Join any scheduled activity that happens weekly.

You can do yoga, spinning, sports when they have 30+ groups, dancing, pottery class, painting class, hiking groups etc.

You can also convert other friend sources to board game groups via house parties where you have easy games first then bring out harder stuff later.

Look into volunteering some of your free time. Search for opportunities that put you out among people, do the things parents don't have time or energy for. It's okay if helping the community isn't your main motivation, the work doesn't care who does it. And it self-selects the other participants to be somewhat like yourself, especially if you let your interests drive your choice of where to donate your time.

I'll be honest I don't know how much the advice will work.

The advice is simple: do social stuff, be social, and you'll end up in a social group.

That being said, the advice is (a) mind-numbingly "have you tried putting one foot in front of the other foot" for someone that knows how to make friends, and (b) the advice is damn near useless/impossible for someone that doesn't know how to make friends.

Personally, I'm in group B. I don't know how to find clubs where people do stuff. I don't know how to find a place to volunteer.

Step 1: move to a big city with high rental cost in which having kids is not feasable for young families.
Step 2: start a social hobby there
Step 3: life the hedonistic lifestyle!

_It is harder to make your friends play boardgames than making friends playing boardgames._

Join a social club. Join a boardgame club. Look online, sometimes people post stuff on Facebook. And go a couple of times, to get the feeling for the attendees. And never forget:

_I rather play a shitty game with cool people than play a cool game with shitty people._

cons. go to the next dragon con.

Your wife sounds like my wife and I. Mine has medical issues though so has a bit of an excuse. You know I think one thing is we introverts were a bit dependent on extroverts to get us to do a few things and since covid the extroverts have a hard time even getting other extroverts together much less looking around for people they have to work hard to get to go out. If the person is not married its going to be even harder becuase the married folks are less motivated to go out.

it is but I did not meet many people when doing it. Everyone is coming at odd hours as they get them to quickly go over their plot. Except for maybe getting it started I was only there for like 15min spans.

That makes sense. Its not really a time slot sort of thing

Perfect !

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Wait, why would you move back to a town everyone left? If i retired at 38 I'd be traveling and not living anywhere near my home town.

I feel like it is harder for women to make friends. Idk why that is.

Buy yeah its hard. I also feel like I scare people off by being too friendly, especially in today's "stare at your phone all the time" world.